Chemsex

Sober sex is sex without the use of chems. Often, going back to sober sex can be a scary thought. If you have been using chems for a while, you might not know where to start.

Sometimes it can be good to think back to a time when you had sex that you enjoyed without chems. Then think about what it was that you liked about it. This can help build a relationship with sex without drugs again.

Making changes to your sex life is often tricky. Try and identify what it is that you want to change. It might be reducing your use of chems, stopping altogether, or not meeting guys specifically for chemsex.

Stopping chems altogether will often mean that you are making a significant change in the way you meet men for sex and how you feel about the sex you are having.

If you want to think about stopping altogether it is worth trying to identify what your triggers might be that ignite the pull towards engaging in chemsex. By its nature, chemsex often makes men crave the experience. This is similar to other addictions and it is worthwhile reaching out for help if you need to.

Some alcohol and drug services have been trained in chemsex so will understand your situation without judgement.

Reducing chemsex is easier to achieve than stopping altogether. This way you can look towards achieving something that might be manageable, whether it’s a break from chemsex, or changing the frequency of chillouts you attend or the number of guys you have sex with.

Crystal meth (methamphetamine), or Tina, is a powerful stimulant that can keep you awake for very long periods of time. It can also make you feel very self-confident, very aroused, disinhibited and alert. Some people may also become paranoid and others may become aggressive. Additionally, it can make it difficult to get an erection, which is known as ‘crystal dick.’

Reduced inhibitions while on crystal meth can increase the likelihood of risk-taking and interest in having different types of sex. Crystal meth has a very high risk of psychological and physical dependence, that for many men has led to devastating effects on their lives causing physical and mental health issues.

Crystal meth is a Class A drug. If caught with crystal meth for self-use or intending to supply, you could go to jail or receive an unlimited fine.

Using crystal meth and taking HIV drugs (including PrEP) can have serious consequences. For example, some HIV drugs can lead to fatal levels of crystal meth being stored in your body. This happens because HIV drugs can slow down your metabolism, making it possible to for you to unintentionally overdose. Furthermore, because crystal meth causes you to lose time, you may forget to take your HIV medication on time, as prescribed.

Mephedrone – also known as m-cat, MCAT, meow, meow-meow, and plant food/feeder – is part of the amphetamine family and is a powerful stimulant.

It is commonly used in chemsex and clubbing. It often comes in white powder or as a mustard/custard coloured cream.

People using mephedrone can expect to have feelings of euphoria, alertness, and affection towards others. You may find yourself talking a lot, becoming very confident and developing increased assuredness in the sex you are having. Mephedrone can also make you sensitive to touch and very sexually aroused. When you are high you may also feel anxious or on edge. It can make you sweat or give you heart palpitations to the extent where it feels like your heart is jumping out of your chest.

Effects of mephedrone include interest in sex that you would not normally have when sober or making you go further than you normally would, especially when engaging in kink.

The affect that mephedrone has on those who take HIV medication, and PrEP, is still under research. This means you should be cautious if you use mephedrone while taking HIV medication.

GHB (gamma hydroxybutyrate), sometimes referred to as GBL (gamma butyrolactone), is a sedative drug and a form of industrial solvent. It is often referred to as G or Gina and is commonly used in chemsex.

GBL comes as a clear liquid which has a chemical taste and smell. GHB, however, is either a salty liquid or a powder that is added to liquid, such as a soft drink (never alcohol). Inside the body GBL becomes GHB.

After taking GHB the high can last for about two hours, increasing the desire for sex and reducing inhibitions. Some think that the effects are similar to alcohol. Other effects of GHB include euphoria, relaxation and tiredness.

Some of the adverse side effects from GHB can include (but are not limited to) dizziness, vomiting, weakness, confusion, drowsiness, loss of consciousness and in some cases, even death. For many years, it was claimed that people could not become dependent on G. It has now been shown however that people who are regularly using the drug can develop a dependence on it and can experience withdrawal symptoms such as confusion, shaking, epileptic seizure and coma.

Overdosing on GHB is easily done and can be fatal. The dose needs to be precise. GHB is currently a Class C drug. It is illegal to supply or possess it. The maximum penalty for possession is 2 years in prison plus a fine.

Ecstasy is the tablet form of Methylenedioxymethamphetamine (MDMA), a loose white powder, and is branded with logos such as Mitsubishi, Superman, doves, smiley faces or Rolex. Ecstasy increases your perception of colours and music, making it the most commonly used drug in the club scene, music and festival circuit. It is also known as ‘pills’, ‘sweeties’, ‘eccies’, ‘disco biscuits’, ‘molly’ and ‘E’.

Ecstasy has mild hallucinogenic and amphetamine-like qualities. It is favoured by clubbers and men who have sex with men due to the intense feelings of love, happiness and sexual desire it creates for those around you. It can also make you feel uninhibited.

The effects begin after 30-60 minutes of taking it and last for 6-8 hours, although it may make you lose track of time. You can develop a tolerance to ecstasy with prolonged use over time so the dosage is often increased to achieve the same effect.

Ecstasy can increase your body temperature and heartbeat and, it can give rise to paranoia, dehydration and even depression. Feeling very tired and low after taking ecstasy is very common. This is known as a ‘comedown’, which can last up to three or four days and can result in sleep problems.

It is illegal to possess or supply, as it is a Class A drug. The maximum penalty for possession is 7 years in prison plus a fine. For supply, it is life in prison and a fine.

Cocaine is a stimulant that makes you feel good by stimulating the ‘feel-good’ chemicals in the brain, like dopamine. Cocaine can be dangerous when mixed with alcohol.

Though not specifically a chemsex drug, cocaine is commonly used by men socially and when having sex. Cocaine usually comes as a powder, as crack (small rock formations), or as freebase (crystallised powder). It is also known as coke, Charlie or blow.

The effects of cocaine, like other stimulants can make you feel alert, happy, excited, wide awake, confident, self-assertive and very horny. Cocaine can make you feel more confident when flirting with other men and even lead to you having sex with people you wouldn’t normally have sex with.

Cocaine can increase your risk of cardiovascular complications. If you have problems with your heart or have high blood pressure, it is best to avoid cocaine.

Cocaine is a Class A drug. If caught in possession of it you can receive a 7-year prison sentence. If you supply, you could get life in prison. In both cases, the fine could be unlimited.